If you’re an introvert, a wedding can feel overwhelming. But don’t let it get you down!
We’ve put together 11 tips to help you survive a wedding! It may seem daunting at first, but with a little planning and flexibility, you’ll have the best day ever.
Keep Your Phone Stowed Away
If you’re not the kind of person who enjoys having your phone out all day, you may want to keep it stowed away. This will help you stay focused on the party and make it more enjoyable for everyone else.
But if you do have to bring your phone with you, try to keep it on silent and be discreet when it comes to using it. It’s also a good idea to have a plan for how you’ll get it out in case of an emergency.
I know a lot of weddings have cell phone valets, so maybe you could ask your brother to put a call box at the reception. That would make it easier for people to keep their phones stowed away, and they might not even notice it’s there.
However, this does seem like a really small request to make, and I’m sure it won’t be very well received by most guests. In this case, it’s best to just follow the spirit of the request — and hope that people don’t get too upset about the rules.
Skip the Speeches
Traditionally, the best man and maid of honour speak during the wedding breakfast, but increasingly couples are opting to break with tradition. Instead, they’re adding in other speeches from friends and family – including the groomsmen and bridesmaids.
The main thing to keep in mind is that every speaker has a different role. This means that you should tailor your speech to suit the person you’re speaking for, rather than making it about yourself.
It also helps to consider the unique relationship that you have with the couple. This can help you decide how to talk about the wedding and what personal touches to include in your speech.
Generally, you should keep your speeches around 4-5 minutes long (with an option to go longer if necessary). If you’re worried about the length of speeches, have someone look over them in advance so you can cut them down if they get too long.
Take a Break
Taking a break is an effective strategy to help couples reassess their feelings and resolve if they want to stay together or not. It allows them to think for themselves and make room for self-growth, according to Ashera DeRosa, L.M.F.T., a licensed marriage and family therapist in Plano, Texas.
But while taking a break can be a great way to help strengthen your bond, it’s important to set ground rules for your relationship before you do so. “It’s best to have a dialogue with your partner about what your break will look like and how you can collaborate on ground rules for that,” says Bridbord.
To make use of Facebook’s Take a Break feature, launch a web browser and open the dedicated website. Select the person you want to limit their access to and follow the instructions. The individual’s posts (and posts they are tagged in) won’t appear in your news feed, and they won’t be prompted to message you or tag you in their photo anymore.
Be Prepared
If you’re a bride or groom, there are some things you can do to be prepared for your big day. These tips can make the difference between a great wedding and an absolute disaster.
No matter what kind of person you are, staying calm and relaxed at a wedding is important. You don’t want to end up feeling anxious or overwhelmed, especially if you are new to the experience.
It’s also important to remember that you have other people who are there to help, like your bridal party or family members. They’ll be more than happy to offer a helping hand, and they’re probably better at it than you are.
It’s also a good idea to get your kit together, so you have everything you need on the day. That way you’ll feel more confident and prepared for the big day.